Marriage Works If You Work It!

Niesha Jones

Marriage Works If You Work It!

Hey guys! Happy Monday! I hope you guys are doing well! So today I want to talk about marriage. I want to be able to encourage you guys as well as give a few tips that I think can help. I’m new to this but I grew up with my grandparents who were married for over 30 years and I saw the love they shared and the hard times. One thing they didn’t do was give up on each other. I can only talk about it now because I recently got married November 12,2022. It was the best day of my life! As a child I can remember wanting to grow up and get married. That was always the goal for me! So when I met my husband in 2021 I was like ok God! But look y’all I prayed! I mean I prayed hard for my husband and God gave me everything I prayed for! Prayer works!! My husband is everything I prayed for and more. But I had to wait (Y’all!! It was so hard because I don’t like waiting lol). But, the wait was necessary and I’m so glad I did! The key is God’s timing! It’s so much better than ours! I had somethings that God needed me to work on first. If he would have gave me my husband in 2020, 2019 or before that I would have messed it up. So that’s why waiting is necessary you never know what God is protecting you from nor do we know why he has us waiting. Like I’ve said before his No can sometimes protect us and majority of the time protect us from ourselves! 

Marriage is a blessing from God. A healthy marriage, centered on Christ, gives life joy and honors God. God has someone for everyone. Marriage reflects the love of God himself. God designed marriage so that man and woman could come together ,and be saved from their sins. They commit to God’s plan for their lives. Marriage is a good thing but it takes work and dedication. Just like if you’re in school. You have to work hard so you can pass. In a marriage there will be hard days but if you work it then it will work! Marriage only works if you work it. 

Here are some encouragement to our married people:

1. Understand the Power of your Words. Once you say something negative or bad to your spouse “just because you’re mad” you can’t take it back! It’s out there! And they are stuck with what you said. Then that can lead to more arguments. So, my advice is to always try to get calm before you address an argument/disagreement. 
2. Verbally encourage one another. Spouse need encouragement daily! 
3. Always be positive 
4. Pray For Each Other. I can’t express how much this one means. If God is not in your marriage it will fail! Pray ever chance you get!
5. Say Thank You. Always make sure your spouse know you are thankful and appreciate them! It’s important! And it makes them feel good. I know me personal, I love when my husband tells me he’s thankful for me and how much he appreciate me. That makes a marriage last long! 

Here are some few tips. There are some many but I feel like these are some of the top things to apply in your marriage!

1. It’s okay to be the first to say I’m sorry!
2. Never go to bed angry/ mad with your spouse.
3. Make sure you take time out for y’all!
4. Pray together
5. ALWAYS date!
6. Don’t sweat the small stuff
7. Give your best to each other
8. Love is a commitment 
9. Never keep secrets from your spouse 
10. Your time together should be a priority. Never let your partner feel like they alone!
11. I’ve said this before and I will say it again NEVER stop dating! This one is important. Just because you married doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. Continue to date and do the things you did to get your spouse! 
12. Be Affectionate!! 

Praying for your marriage/spouse- 

1. Pray for one another
2. Pray to be the presence of Christ in your marriage.
3. Pray that your marriage will be a positive influence on others. 
4. Pray for wisdom

How to handle/ deal with arguments or disagreements in marriage-

1. Pray! Praying will get you a long way! Talk to God! He’s ready to listen and help. We just have to lean on him! 
2. Sometimes it’s good to calm down before you try to handle a disagreement. Once you say something you can’t take it back.
3. It’s ok to agree to disagree. We have to understand that we are all different so it’s okay to have different values. 
4. Communication is the key!
5. You have to stay opened minded
6. Give each other space BUT be sure to come back and have that conversation!

Remember guys no one is perfect!

To ALL the single woman your husband is coming! I’m a witness that God has not & will not forget about you!! It just make time a little while longer! I promise you the wait will be worth it! 

YOU ARE NEXT IN LINE! 

I have a group on Facebook please feel free to join. The group is called Marriage: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

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